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Why Black Kids Need Books With Black Characters

As a kid, I loved opening up a good book and getting lost in the tangled web of the characters. I definitely was a well-read black girl. My mother did a good job of making a point to ensure I had books with characters from all walks of life. Fortunately for me, I was a black child reading books with black characters. One of my favorite childhood books was “Amazing Grace” by Mary Hoffman.  I loved how Grace was faced with a challenge and chose that others’ doubts were none of her business. She would do what she had set her mind to, regardless of naysayers. That speaks to so many of our lives, doesn’t it?

As a mama of three little black children, it is important that I help them paint the same positive narratives that I had dancing in my head as a child.  In today’s society, it’s easy to get caught up in the negative imagines and the loud “whisper” of what you are and are not supposed to be.

Black children need books with Black characters because…

  1. It helps them develop a positive self-image
  2. It makes them more aware of the difficulties they will face in a child-friendly way
  3. It helps them to learn about the awesome Black people who have impacted this world
  4. It gives them hope
  5. It helps them build self-confidence

Here are some of the books with black characters that are currently in heavy rotation with my crew:



My children are in love with these books. Allowing them to see and hear from characters that look like them has increased their reading engagement, opened up some candid conversations, and makes doing homework easier.

No matter your family’s background, you have to help your children to understand the diversity of our world through reading and experience. Wethers its books, television, or urban cosplay, we have to find ways to expose our children to things that represent their culture. I love to read and hope my children develop and keep the same love of reading I have carried throughout my life.

What are the “must reads” on your mama reading list and your kids’ reading list?

Keep doing (the best) you boo!

xoxo Lani

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Making Homework With Your Kids Easier


“As soon as we get in the house, sit down and start your homework,” is a sentence I’ve said countless times to my trio. As each child moves up the educational ladder, the homework assignments become more difficult and more tedious. Just like any other household, completing homework doesn’t come without its woes. One child is doing their best to get a “snack” instead of homework, another is trying really hard and can’t get it, and the third insist on doing their homework before they get home and turning it in before you can check the quality. Because after all, the homework represents your effort as a parent. Right? Wrong! As a mama (and a teacher), I know that teachers’ intent is not to frustrate you or your precious saplings. Simply, there are not enough hours in the school day and we want to use homework to reinforce ideas learned in class,  review topics already learned, or to preview ideas we will learn in the future.  Honestly, teacher’s aren’t so caught up in the idea of homework that we’ll fail your child for not completing their homework (we probably will give you a call to see what’s going on though).

As my mama friends were expressing their angst with their littles and homework, I offered up a few tips to make homework with your kids easier.

Making homework easier

Making homework easier


Build Stamina

Stamina is the ability to do a task for an extended amount of time without getting distracted. Just like with anything in life, we have to help our kids increase their ability to do something for an extended period of time. Honestly, as an adult, who can sit for three hours and focus on a task? Both hands raised, not this girl. So, start slow. If you have a really reluctant child, building stamina will be their best friend. Start with 5 focused minutes, then take a brain break. Slowly increase their time on task, until they are up to an amount of time that will allow a good chunk of homework to be done. 25-30 minutes is adequate before they will need to and want to take a small break or be complete with the nights’ assignments. Sure, as children get older the stamina can increase. But please, don’t try to make your six-year-old sit down for an hour and do their homework. You both are going to end up exhausted, frustrated, and in need of some alone time. 


Rewards can range from stickers to free time, to an episode of their favorite show. In our family, we use a sticker chart for each kiddo.  For example, we use summer bridge workbooks during any break from school. For every 2 pages they complete, a sticker is added to the sticker chart. Once the chart is full (20 stickers), we take a trip to get a sweet treat of their choice.  Rewards can also be used in conjunction with building stamina in order to make doing homework with your kids easier. 

Set stamina milestones. When your child increases from 5 to 10 minutes focused and on task, reward them with a sticker.  If your child is into shopkins, bayblades, or slime, use that as a reward! My littles are fairly young and the rewards are very simple at this point. As they get older, I will adjust their rewards. 

You can use some of these as rewards to make homework easier… 


Take a Break

If you’re anything like me, you just want to get it done so you can move on to the next task on your list. Unfortunately, this can lead to excess frustrations when it comes to completing homework with your kids. To save the sanity of the entire family, take a break! Once you sense a hint of frustration from either parents or the kids, everyone should step back and take a break. Keep the breaks short enough to not lose momentum, but long enough to allow everyone time to regain their umph.  What do you do during the breaks? Anything you want that is not related to homework. Walk to the mailbox, take a 5-minute dance break, say a prayer, lay on the floor, or color. Whatever you do, don’t do homework during the break, and don’t allow the breaks to become too frequent or so long that you put the work off. 

Don’t Yell

Confession time, this was me! Don’t judge me, I am still a work in progress.  What I’ve learned from yelling at my precious kids during homework time…it doesn’t help! So mama, daddy, sister, grandma, save your yells for outside on the playground. Yelling confirms that you are upset and in turn, you get more upset. It lets your kids know that you are upset and they either shut down completely or become a crying heap on the floor.  What do  I do now? I count and breath. If I feel myself reaching the point of yelling, I stop and breathe and ask myself if it is time to take a break. 

If it is not the time for a break, I quickly recover and reexplain the tasks and I ask my children what part they are having trouble with.  This is a mistake I have made, and will probably continue to make every now and again, but I don’t want to teach my children that they should be yelled at for lack of understanding. I was chosen to be their mom to teach them and help them learn about the things they don’t understand. Allow them the courtesy of learning from a person who is not visibility irritated (you are free to be irritated inside all you wish). If you remember nothing else, remember that not yelling will make doing homework with your kids much easier. 

Set a Timer to build independence 

As you build stamina and your children grow in their understanding, it is time to implement more independence. The more independent your child can be, the easier it will be to do their homework. This is something we have implemented with even our youngest child.

When you are beginning the assignment, set a timer. For the first 5-7 minutes, don’t allow your children to ask any questions about the assignment. This encourages them to read the directions and reread the direction if they are not quite sure. When children are in the classroom, they are often completing tasks independently. They cannot rely on the teacher or the parent as a crutch, so they have to practice building their independence. A timer is a great visual reminder that they are not alone “forever”, but it also reminds them they have to try their best to figure it out during this time. 

An egg timer is pretty easy to use and kids can even set it themselves. You can also use this same timer to help build homework stamina.


Don’t do all the homework

Yes, I am a teacher. Yes, I said do not do all the homework.  Honestly, if the homework packet is stressing you and your child out, just do what you can. Homework is not worth a child losing their love of learning. Homework is a tool meant to help, not hinder. If not completing a couple pages in their packet will make doing homework with your kids easier, do that! Again, you can build up your child’s stamina to complete the entire weeks’ assignment. But, as a teacher, I’d rather a child get a good night’s rest and be ready to rock the next day than complete 282 pages (slight exaggeration) of homework and be exhausted. And as a parent, I am free to choose what is best for my child. 

This is what has worked in my household and we are on the road to stress-free homework time,  (if there is such a thing). What are you doing to make homework time easier for the whole family?

Keep doing (the best) you boo! 

xoxo Lani 


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