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Things 2018 Taught Me

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As each year ends, the majority of us reflect on the year that is passing and set goals for the year ahead. So what has 2018 taught me? It depends. Sometimes we walk away with some life altering insights and sometimes we realize that our favorite shirt actually has a misspelling on it. No matter the caliber, you should leave each year having learned something about yourself, your life, and those around you. Here are the things 2018 has taught me (in no particular order)…

1. Make time for yourself

Ladies. Mamas. Wives. Professionals. Students. Whatever you are, remember that YOU come first. As super women we do everything in our power to ensure those around us are thriving and happy. But, what about us? Take that hour, day, weekend…whatever you need, and focus solely on you. Get that massage, listen to that audio book, sleep all day! Make (or take) time to do the things you enjoy and benefit only you (insert loud gasp). By far this is the most important thing 2018 has taught me.

2. Time is a precious resource

This one isn’t new. But man, 2018 made me realize I spent a lot of time in meetings that resolved nothing, having conversations with people that were meaningless, and generally wasting time. I will never get those minutes back. But, I can’t cry over wasted time (though I want too), I’m taking note and removing those things that suck the time force out of my life. Goodbye traffic (<— that is how it works right?)!

3. Love what you do

We hear this all the time, but how often do we apply what we know. We go to school, we get that certificate, we get that job and after 3,4,5,10 years the passion is gone. If you don’t love it (Like it is really negatively affecting your life), find a new love and pour into that. Yes it is scary, it is a risk. But, in my book, a (well thought out) risk is worth taking if it may result in a lifetime of happiness. Great risks often yield great rewards. Thank you 2018! You taught me that.

4. Say “No”

Girl, can you…NO! Mommy, can you…NO! Sister, can you…NO!

It is okay to say No. You cannot be all things to all people at all times, which is okay. If you cannot do it, do not commit to it (and don’t feel bad). I’ve had an issue with this this year, and I was left drained and aggravated. When I started saying “no”, life got so much easier. I don’t say “no” to everyone or everything, but I do say “no” to things I can’t (or don’t want to do). My mental and physical health are more important that over extending myself.

5. Write the vision, make it plain

In 2018 I didn’t finish my vision board (so what, right?). I accomplished many of the things that I did have on it (yay for me!). I didn’t accomplish the things that were not on it. My vision was not complete, it’s very difficult to complete “blank space”. Without a clear vision, it is difficult to follow the path and reach your destination. So this year, I’ll be sure to write and complete the vision.

6. Goals don’t expire

Yasss hunny I am excited for grace, especially because I fumbled a bit on #5 (writing my vision). I am ready to crush my new goals and transfer some old ones into the new year. Goals do not have an expiration date and delayed does not mean denied! So reset girlfriend, and strut into the new year like you own it.

Keep doing (the best) you boo!

xoxo Lani

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9 thoughts on “Things 2018 Taught Me

  1. #2, 5 and 6 resonated with me the most, those are very important lessons to remember when starting any journey! Time, patience, and a vision are vital for any dream to come true! I hope you have the BEST new year! ✨

  2. Hey Lani,

    Great list on what 2018 taught you! I love how you said you didn’t finish your vision board for last year, yet you accomplished things that weren’t even on it. I LOVE it when that happens. Bigger and better things we never even imagined for ourselves. 2019 can only be up from here. I wish you the best!

    Love Always,

    Christina Jane

  3. See I should’ve added saying no to my 2019 goals list because that right there is extremely important! You have some valuable lessons you learned this year. Good luck for 2019!

  4. I’ve never done a vision board!! I should make one this year. Also, saying no can be difficult but it is sometimes necessary I learned that as well in 2018! Wish you a happy 2019!!

  5. Hi Lani!
    Finding time for myself is a huge deal to me this year. I’ve never had to actually worry about that before. Being a new momma… Well, Lord have mercy does it take up the time. Not that I mind, I love spending time with my little man. But I think it’s important to find time for myself, my sanity lol. These days it’s during my mornings. It is so nice to have an hour or two of just quiet.
    I can’t wait to see what you have in store for your blog this year 🙂
    ~ Ray

    1. Ray,
      Mama time is always important! We have to get in the habit of taking it and not guilt-tripping ourselves for doing so. Thank you for reading 🙂 -Lani

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